Creating space for authentic conversation

After writing last’s week’s post Change starts with you and me. It’s time to speak up. I’ve been thinking more about our ability to engage in authentic and courageous dialogue. In regards to last week’s post one person commented, “Conversation, sounds like a relic from a time and place far far away…” It’s time for us to dust off the … Read More

Change starts with you and me. It’s time to speak up.

Many of us are so often doing things in a state of reaction, or because of shame and we don’t realize we are. Shame and guilt pervade our days, that we don’t realize how much of our lives is dictated by other people’s beliefs and expectations. Here are some personal examples from my life that you may relate to. We … Read More

Are your should’s and supposed to’s holding you back?

Many of us are so often doing things in a state of reaction, or because of shame and we don’t realize we are. Shame and guilt pervade our days, that we don’t realize how much of our lives is dictated by other people’s beliefs and expectations. Here are some personal examples from my life that you may relate to. We … Read More

The Problem with Problems. Creating New Opportunities.

All life is problem-solving. Our brains have a built-in bias towards negativity. We simply have a greater sensitivity to unpleasant news, it’s more sensational and elicits more of a reaction from us. Why? To keep us out of harm’s way. It’s made us excellent at scanning our environment to look for danger or safety. When it’s safe, our nervous system’s … Read More

What would you do, if you could? Overcome moments of frustration & doubt.

I left her office feeling disappointed and flustered. Each footstep heavier as I walked with frustration back to my desk. I did it again! I could hear a familiar tape starting in my head. Today’s tennis match is brought to you by Fear. Fear– always there! We’ve got your back! In today’s highly anticipated doubles match, Victim &  Doubt are … Read More

What You Resist Persists. Moving Beyond Resistance in Yourself and Your Team

Do these phrases sound familiar: I personally believe that resistance is one of the greatest obstacles we face every day. It takes us out of our flow, stops change in its tracks and keeps us stuck. It’s a big stop sign that prevents us from moving ahead in our lives and being happy. It’s our physical and emotional body’s way … Read More

How to find balance in your life. It’s not what you think.

There’s a trend that I see in the bay area, especially among leaders, at first in my own life and in those around me. “I need more balance in my life.” I get it. I’ve been there. There was a time I was commuting 3 hours a day, working at least 50 hours and more a week with international team … Read More

The Myth of the Unicorn Leader

Present, Charismatic, Caring, Inspirational, Wicked Smart, Empathetic, Understanding, Coaches, Mentor, Strategic Visionary, Honest, Authentic, Respected, Integrous, Vulnerable, Tall, Compassionate, Good communicator,  Wise,  Multiplies, Humorous, Fun, Relaxed, Is my advocate, and Has my back. What a list! No this isn’t my list for “The One”. Well, it is in a way. It’s my list of attributes when I think of a … Read More

Do You Really Want to Be a Leader?

Who grew up saying to their mommy. I want to be a leader one day! Personally, I wanted to be a dancer. All right. I wanted to be Madonna. Ok, really I just wanted to be a hula hoop queen or to be precise, The Hula Hoop Queen. Eventually, during my first job at JC Penney’s I met some really … Read More

Me Too. Why I Raise My Hand.

I usually start my posts by sharing a personal story. This post is different. I’m not. Today I’m writing about the #metoo campaign that’s populated my Facebook feed this week. I rose my hand, as did many. Here is what I posted: “Me, too. If all who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote “Me too” as a status, we … Read More